How Often Is Normal for Sexual Activity? What Is an Appropriate Duration for Middle-Aged Men? A Doctor Explains.

There was once a couple who had a flash marriage but spent little time together. Initially, they could enjoy the novelty of being apart, but as the husband's performance in bed deteriorated, their relationship grew increasingly cold, leading to more frequent arguments and ultimately ending in divorce. This illustrates that while people often shy away from discussing "sex," it is indeed a crucial factor in maintaining marital harmony for middle-aged couples. To sustain a healthy marriage, a deep emotional foundation is essential, but the husband's "bedroom prowess" is also of great importance.

Unfortunately, due to long-term lack of exercise and unhealthy lifestyle habits such as staying up late, smoking, and drinking, many middle-aged men have already depleted their kidney health, with Erectile Dysfunction (ED) becoming a constant companion. They may aspire to be "invincible generals" in bed, but reality often leaves them "willing but unable."

ED: The Culprit Behind Middle-Aged Couples' Lack of Sexual Happiness

Many people are concerned about the frequency of sexual activity. Medical advice generally recommends once every 2-3 days, but the actual frequency for middle-aged couples is often much lower. As for the appropriate duration, a normal middle-aged man should typically last around 10 minutes per session. However, many now "surrender" after just two or three minutes, fitting the old saying—"the mouth is the hardest part of the body."

The primary culprit behind middle-aged couples' lack of sexual happiness is ED. ED refers to the persistent or recurrent inability of a man to achieve or maintain an erection sufficient for satisfactory sexual performance. Relevant data show that approximately 150 million men worldwide are affected by ED. In China, the incidence of ED among men is as high as 41%, and it tends to increase with age, highlighting its prevalence.

Early Intervention Can Effortlessly Enhance Bedroom Prowess

If men encounter similar issues, it is advisable to seek early intervention. This can be approached from three aspects: a balanced diet, lifestyle changes, and medicinal调理.

In terms of diet, maintaining balanced nutrition is key. Adopting a "Mediterranean diet"—focusing on fruits, vegetables, nuts, whole grains, fish, and olive oil, with limited red meat—can help maintain cardiovascular health and improve erectile function.

Regarding lifestyle habits, it is recommended to quit smoking, limit alcohol consumption, reduce staying up late, maintain a regular schedule, and engage in consistent exercise. Activities such as brisk walking or swimming can enhance physical fitness, promote blood circulation, and thereby improve ED.

In terms of medication, pure traditional Chinese medicines with high safety profiles, such as Bawei Yishen Wan, can be considered. This formula originates from the classic prescriptions Shenxiao Wan and Yougui Wan. Building on the strengths of both, it integrates modern pharmacology and toxicology of traditional Chinese medicine. Following the principles of "monarch, minister, assistant, and envoy," it optimally combines ingredients such as silkworm moth, Epimedium, deer antler glue, Cuscuta chinensis, Eucommia ulmoides, Rehmannia glutinosa, Dioscorea opposita, and Angelica sinensis to warm and tonify kidney yang, replenish essence, and nourish blood. The advantage of this approach lies in balancing yin and yang within the body, achieving dual supplementation, comprehensively enhancing health, and fundamentally addressing sexual dysfunction caused by kidney yang deficiency.

Data show that when taken as a course of treatment, Bawei Yishen Wan achieves an efficacy rate of 77.1% in treating ED, comparable to sildenafil, but with an adverse reaction rate of only 1.94%, significantly lower than the 28.4% associated with Western medications, indicating higher safety. Additionally, since Bawei Yishen Wan contains no sugars or components that affect blood pressure or lipid levels, it is also suitable for individuals with conditions such as hypertension, hyperlipidemia, and hyperglycemia.

A happy marriage relies on harmonious intimate relations. However, as men reach middle age, depleted kidney health often leads to diminished sexual performance. When facing such issues, avoiding medical consultation is unwise and may exacerbate the problem. The scientific approach is to acknowledge it and seek early调理. Remember, a partner's sexual happiness contributes to the family's overall well-being!